A sibling relationship is one of the most vital of all relationships we will have in this life They may not truly realize the value of their siblings until they reach adulthood.
Here are some things to remember along the way while your children are growing up as recommended by Traci Little;
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Model kindness before them
Kids tend to mimic everything they see around because that is how they grow, through observation. We should be the best role model around them because we are the once who influence them the most. So be careful portraying yourself in terms mannerisms, behavior, body language, words, and also the tone of our voice.
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Teach problem-solving skills
As adults, sometimes we think that our thoughts are the only one that matters and often let our pride win because we don’t want to be wrong. Instead, talk out solutions with your child and make them think too. This will boost their confidence because you’re giving the opportunity to speak.
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Give more compliments than correction
Sometimes, correcting our child has become a habit because in our eyes they’ll keep on making mistakes day after day. However, it is our job to educate them but never make it habit that you need to correct them every day. Give compliments instead, focus on the good things and they will too towards their siblings.
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Reinforce respect
Siblings will cross the line if they don’t have enough respect for each other to acknowledge the boundaries. Never tolerate if they start disrespecting or bullying each other.
- Give your children time to work it out
Even though it seems hard not to interfere when they fight but the next time they do, give them a chance to figure it out themselves. Trust that you’ve taught your child enough to know that maybe they are able to work it out on their own.
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Spend time with them individually
Kids are sensitive towards their surroundings and maybe the source of their anger is because they feel left out in the family. Of course us parents may feel like we’ve been fair to everyone but kids notice everything we don’t. So make time for them, genuinely listen what they have to say and make necessary changes.
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Family devotion time
It’s always good to incorporate religious activities with your family. You don’t have to plan out schedules for these activities but make it a family routine. It could be reading Al-Quran after prayers or even just reading a few hadiths.
